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PROTECT YOUR MENTAL AT ALL COST.

One scary thing that most people have in common is a mental heath issue of some sort. Mental illness effects everyone no mater age, sex, weight, status, or zip code the only requirement is having a beating heart. Mental Health issues are not something you wear or something that is written on your forehead for all to see. It’s a hidden mystery that no one will know about unless one disclosed their struggles. In today’s society Mental Health issues are even more common and discussed because we are in a “social media era”. In this era we are exposed to all types of negativity that does more damage to our mental than good.

Today the most common forms of mental illness is Depression, Anxiety, Eating disorders, and ADD/ADHD. Social media is forced on children as young as 7 years old. Media platforms such as YouTube are forced on to newborns and toddlers. Every platform has its advantages and disadvantages. When it comes to YouTube we use it to keep our children busy with music, with learning materials, and even to put them to sleep with white noise videos.

As a child gets older we begin to see the negative effects of social media. Children see other children with toys and games that they don’t have and begin to want what others have and not appreciate what they may already have. Using the children in my own family I’ve seen them fall in love with money, cars, and huge homes. They are 4,5, and 6 years old, they have barely begun school but they do know that one day they will be rich with a Lamborghini and a huge home with a pool and basketball court. Do not get me wrong these are amazing goals but children do not understand that what is meant to be for them will be theirs and what is for someone else will go to someone else. It also takes hard work and will not happen overnight.

I believe social media has a lot to do with the growth of mental illness in recent years for this exact reason. People having the desire to live someone else’s life, wanting to have what others have, and pressuring themselves to get on others people’s levels without doing the work or not being true to themselves. When we do not get the results we want we get angry and down about ourselves not realizing who we are is something amazing. We become so blinded by what society says we should have and what we should look like and what we should wear that we lose sight of who we personally are. Its normal to fall in to this trap because its all around us, not giving us the opportunity to stay true to ourselves before we are taught how to be someone else.

No matter who you are, what your status is, how old you are, how much money you have, what kind of car you own, and where you live you worthy and unique. Who were born as is far more amazing than anyone you could ever try to be. Mental illness is real and harmful to us because it robs you of living the awesome life that was intended for us. Whenever you are feeling down and out encourage yourself remind your self that there is something bigger and better than whatever you may be going through. You may not feel encourage but all you need is faith the size of a mustard seed to get you through. Keep happiness in mind. When you see someone who’s not happy or does not look like themselves encourage them, hug them, talk to them, or simply smile at them. You never know what someones going through the smallest gesture can save a life.

Down below I have included a photo from MedGrocer showing a few statistics on mental illness.

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A Message To My Growing Girls !

I Am Who I Am !

This message is for my growing girls. You are beautiful, you are smart, you are courageous, you are the ultimate package deal. No matter what season of life you are walking through right now you will get through it. It may not be today or tomorrow but you will make it through. Learn yourself. Feed positivity to your mind, body, and soul. Love yourself. Cherish and embrace everything bout yourself. You have no flaws, everything that you have is what makes you who you are and sets you apart from everyone else.

Keep striving for greatness the you will be amazed at the person you will become. Becoming that person is not going to be a walk in the park; it is going to take work. Work that you will not want to do but it is necessary to get to who your destined to be. When a flower has blossomed and is standing beautifully it has gone through many seasons, trials, and tribulations starting from being a seed planted in the ground where no one can see it. Who ever you are, who ever you desire to be; be that person as long as you stay true to yourself. Do not let anyone tell you any different. Know your standards and do not lower it for anyone.

Many of us are blinded by today’s failed social norms. All it takes is one click to instagram to be exposed to everyone “Living their best lives” . 5% of those people are actually living the good life but the other 95% are faking it till they make it. This is why it is so important for us to get to know ourselves and love our selves so that when we see things that others have we do not be tortured by comparison. What is meant for you will be yours. So whatever journey the next person is going through let it be theirs and you stay focused on your lane and and create your own journey.

BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOU !

Thank you for spending time with me today ! I hope I was able to help someone today and you can to! Be sure to comment, like, and share. -Tatyana

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Who Do I Turn To ?

After completing my internship in the Pediatric Unit at a local hospital, I was exposed to how much we have failed as a community. Better yet, as humans in general. We are struggling to live average healthy lives due to our lack of knowledge. While being in the unit I have come to the conclusion that it is the job of parents to teach basic fundamentals such as being healthy, staying safe, practicing safe sex, and personal hygiene. On more than three occasions I have come across mothers who could not provide this basic information because they themselves do not have the answers. You may be wondering well what is the Pediatricians job? Their job is to maintain a child’s health and if a problem should arise then they will take action and actually do what their job descriptions says.

While scheduling patients providers allot 15 min time slots per patient. How much teaching is really happening in that 15 min time period? I can guarantee, not much if any. Providers in the clinic I interned at were either completely over worked or did not have much experience working at a large unit of that nature. The providers who were over worked were once great providers according to patient feedback but overtime their ability to care for patients are decreasing. The providers that lacked experience in large un8 were excellent providers who held themselves at a higher standard. These were the providers that only made space for very few patients and only came on specific days at specific times.

At the clinic parents only knew their child needed a physical. They did not know what that meant or why they needed one, they just knew it happened once a year and they did not care what provider completed their child’s physical as long as it was completed. There is a number of things wrong with this. The first being that this style of parenting is very common. Parents are not investing enough time into their children. The second issue is that you never know what kind of doctor you will be allowing to care for your child with this approach. You might get one who cares or one who does not. It is the parents responsibly to make sure their child gets the best care possible. The third problem is not knowing why a child is being seen. During physicals a child may receive a few vaccines and if you do not know what is being administered to your child you can possibly do more harm than good. The last problem is understanding your child. Children/Teens will not discuss things with people they are not familiar with. So allowing your child to see any provider tells me that you do not care much and are not instilling the basic fundamentals that I perviously spoke of. How do I know this? If you were investing that time and knowledge you would value each and every trip to the doctors office to make sure your child is being feed gems and jewels by his/her provider.

We as a community have to do better in getting the right information out there. It is so important that our youth knows how to stay safe and healthy. It all falls down to educating ourselves and being surrounded by safe practices. The hospital I interned at is in a high HIV rated area and they do an amazing job of getting that knowledge out there, they help people get tested and help them receive treatment if needed. They do this by running outreach programs to visit high traffic areas. They have signs and posters all over the hospital. They have so much directed for adults but they have forgotten our youth. That is where we need to step in to raise awareness of the forever growing STD rates or the Teen pregnancy rates. Had children known where to get information or if social media overflowed with conversations having to do with safe practices those rates would diminish by a lot.

It is important that our youth knows where all the help is so that they do not feel like they do not know what to do in a time of need. They need to understand that they are entitled to use each and every resource out there because they are created for the greater good of them and their future. If you are a parent who does not know where to start, you should begin by educating yourself with the laws and rights of your state. Get familiar with what teens are researching on the internet and find those answers so you already know what to expect. If you are a teen who is lost, you can take that same approach but take an extra step and get familiar with yourself and your health. Find out the areas you lack and the areas you think you are familiar with and research them become fluent in the language of Adolescent/growing living.

If you live in the NYC area check out the NYC Health site https://www1.nyc.gov/site/doh/health/health-topics/teen-home.page. If you do not live in NYC Google your states health site. Every state has specific laws and regulations in regards to child/adolescent health.

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-Tatyana

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Social Media is the Death of Our Youth

Today we live in a world controlled by social media. Parents are no longer getting to parent their children the right way because of sites like Instagram, Youtube, Facebook, and more. Many will say it is the parents fault that a child will have access to these sites, that’s not entirely true. These sites are easily accessible for anyone who has a mobile device. Today, children are getting phones as young as seven years old and children today have become so advanced they know how to access sites without help.

I feel as though our youth are not receiving a fair chance at life. Do not get me wrong this generation is the most goal driven generation thus far. The problems arise because our youth are learning what is “cool” and “accepted” from rappers, video vixens, instagram models, and social media influencers. That would be great if they flaunted school, making an honest living, natural beauty, self-love, positive influence, and even religion. They are flaunting the complete opposite. Fast money, bullying, plastic surgery, sex, and drugs just to name a few.

The lives that influencers display are beautiful, fun-filled lives but they are not realistic for 85% of todays youth. I have created this blog to provide our youth with the CORRECT information that will most definitely allow them to live a life that they love and that no can take away because they will be overflowing with knowledge in all areas. Sexual/Reproductive information, How to master self-love, what to do when you run in to struggles, teen pregnancy, and more.

My goal is to reach as many people as I can because everyone deserves to “Live their best lives”. Social media is to dominate today that when we wake up we do not even go for a morning bathroom run before we are scrolling on our timelines. There is nothing wrong with social media if it was positive things only but it is not and we are loading our minds with toxins and bad omens. There are many influencers who promote positivity but they are overpowered by those promoting negativity.

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